PMS Queens on Parade

In my book, Booby Trapped: Men Beware the Dirty Seven Sisters, I describe the seven categories of women who will make a man’s life living hell if he is trapped in a marriage or relationship with them. The first category of women is The PMS Queen. She is the self-entitled diva whose mood-swings go from bad to worse. Stay out of her way and do not get involved. Back away from the PMS Queen now.

Two celebrity examples I cite in my book continue to provide validation for my observations: Mariah Carey and Naomi Campbell. Luckily, neither of these drama mamas are married now. This is understandable, due to their impossible-to-live-with behavior. I describe several examples of their complete self-absorption and lack of empathy towards anyone who does not choose to bow down to their demands. Now I have more examples, showing that the Dirty Seven Sisters do not change, will not change, and the only way to deal with them is to avoid them.

Mariah Carey, for example has been known to hold up traffic in the US for hours over the wrong color nail polish. Recently, the UK Daily Mail ran an article entitled: “Viva La Diva! Mariah Carey's outrageous demands for a dog chauffeur, 100 pairs of shoes and a £1,000 throne.” Read the entire article here.

In it she says, “I don’t think I am demanding enough,” after she had made the following demands:

--11 bodyguards to surround her restaurant table so diners can't see her eat.
--20 humidifiers around her bed.
--A $100,000 antique table, covered with silk cloth, to scribble upon, flown in from New York. She sat on a $2,000 throne and was surrounded by roses and butterflies, for signing autographs at a department store.

When accepting her role in an upcoming film, budgetary constraints meant she would have to travel to the location on an economy-class air ticket, rather than her usual first class or private jet. She agreed ... then bought every single economy seat on her flight, and travelled alone in the cabin.

She insists on wearing high heels at all times, and has even been filmed in her stilettos while using her home-gym equipment. "I can't wear flat shoes," she explains. Thus, while making the video for her recent single, Mariah insisted on being carried around the set because her shoes had left her feet in pain. "I was in agony," she explained. "My high heels had left my feet bleeding. Laugh all you want, my feet hurt."

Keeping people waiting has been a part of her glamorous rep. In Paris two weeks ago, she arrived almost three hours late for a press conference, by which time most of the media had given up and left. Mariah then stayed for less than 30 minutes. In England, she cancelled a breakfast show interview because “I am not a morning person.” Her self-important tardiness is legendary. She once arrived 90 minutes late for the Capital Radio awards because she had broken a fingernail.

Naomi Campbell is another character in my book. She recently spat on a police officer at Heathrow airport. She was handcuffed and dragged away screaming. She could not find one of her three carry-on bags. The flight was held up for more than an hour because of her PMS Queen antics.

In the past she had assaulted two assistants with her cell phone, flinging one at the back of the assistant’s head and causing lacerations and the need for four stitches. She had also been sued in 2003 by a former assistant who alleged that the supermodel had thrown a phone at her during a tantrum in a Beverly Hills hotel in 2001. The aide also claimed Campbell grabbed her by the arms and threw her down on a couch.

In another incident, in February 2000, Campbell pleaded guilty in Toronto to an assault charge for beating an assistant during the making of a 1998 movie.

As MK says in DListed.com, “Once a crazy bitch, always a crazy bitch!” Don't think they will change. Naomi has been to several Anger Management classes. They haven't made a dent in her PMS Queen Diva behavior and possibly never will. Men beware, she and Mariah are celebrity examples warning you about the legions of PMS Queens on the dating scene today.

The Alimony Trap: Enslavement for Women Too

In my article on Heather Mills below, I discuss how women drain men of unearned and undeserved funds through alimony. But men are not the only victims of this form of post-marital entrapment. The number of men receiving alimony from women is on the rise. And it may rise further as women become the primary wage earners in many marriages.

John David Castellanos, a former star from the soap opera "The Young and the Restless," is one of the these men. He gets $9,000 a month from his ex-wife. Joan Lunden's ex-husband received $18,000 a month. A non-celebrity shop foreman syphons $40,000 a year off of his marketing executive ex so he can maintain his antique cars.

"I don't understand why someone becomes your financial responsibility just because you married them," said Mr. Castellanos' ex. Joan Lunden also commented when she received her alimony court order, "Why the courts don't tell a husband, who has been living off his wife, to go out and get a job is beyond my comprehension." In the case of the shop foreman, he has a job but he still makes less than his ex and therefore is entitled.

Alimony is not child support. It is the money handed to the lower-earning ex-spouse. It is court ordered and can go on for years. It is one of the most miserable consequences of a wrecked marriage. It is also one of the biggest reasons to take the subject of mating very seriously.

Child support is understandable, but alimony abuse is a manifestation of greed. If the outcome of a "love-match" is financial gouging over many years, it s nothing more than enslavement.

In my book, The Dirty Seven: Ladies Beware, I discuss a category of men whose sole purpose is to find a woman to parasitize. He is the YAPpie, the most abundant category of men on the dating scene. The YAPpie and OLman, another category in the book, drain a woman financially and emotionally before they move on to their next victims.

Romantic dreams can turn into sickening nightmares as you write out the monthly alimony check to the man who was once your husband.