The Alimony Trap: Enslavement for Women Too

In my article on Heather Mills below, I discuss how women drain men of unearned and undeserved funds through alimony. But men are not the only victims of this form of post-marital entrapment. The number of men receiving alimony from women is on the rise. And it may rise further as women become the primary wage earners in many marriages.

John David Castellanos, a former star from the soap opera "The Young and the Restless," is one of the these men. He gets $9,000 a month from his ex-wife. Joan Lunden's ex-husband received $18,000 a month. A non-celebrity shop foreman syphons $40,000 a year off of his marketing executive ex so he can maintain his antique cars.

"I don't understand why someone becomes your financial responsibility just because you married them," said Mr. Castellanos' ex. Joan Lunden also commented when she received her alimony court order, "Why the courts don't tell a husband, who has been living off his wife, to go out and get a job is beyond my comprehension." In the case of the shop foreman, he has a job but he still makes less than his ex and therefore is entitled.

Alimony is not child support. It is the money handed to the lower-earning ex-spouse. It is court ordered and can go on for years. It is one of the most miserable consequences of a wrecked marriage. It is also one of the biggest reasons to take the subject of mating very seriously.

Child support is understandable, but alimony abuse is a manifestation of greed. If the outcome of a "love-match" is financial gouging over many years, it s nothing more than enslavement.

In my book, The Dirty Seven: Ladies Beware, I discuss a category of men whose sole purpose is to find a woman to parasitize. He is the YAPpie, the most abundant category of men on the dating scene. The YAPpie and OLman, another category in the book, drain a woman financially and emotionally before they move on to their next victims.

Romantic dreams can turn into sickening nightmares as you write out the monthly alimony check to the man who was once your husband.