Help me find a partner

As a dating and relationships expert, my niche is sorting through people after you have attracted them into your life. But some people need help in attracting someone into their lives first. In these cases I do not recommend the now traditional meeting venues: Bars and the Internet. I believe you need to feel the presence of a person and observe their actions unless, you're just in it for a booty call.

Bars let you feel a person's presence but they are noisy. Carrying on a real conversation can be difficult. And most of the time we are under the influence of our hormones, alcohol, or other substances. So even though our sexual craving may be met, we will ultimately be back to the same loneliness because our need is to make a true connection.

The Internet does not allow us to feel the personal presence or observe the behavior of our prospect. In this case, a bar is better than the Internet. Plus both the bar and the Internet work on the premise that you are both out there for the purposes of hooking up.

So think of places that don't automatically scream "Meat Market!"

Let me suggest one. A museum. You can go on a Saturday or Sunday, so you can see the person in the light of day. Check out the art galleries. You can gently approach a painting or sculpture and remark on its beauty to the person you have targeted. Or remark that you have never seen something so amazing and it's right here in (whatever town you are in." "_______ is a surprising city. Have you ever been to ______?" You get the idea.

Look clean, approachable, and non-threatening. Wear something that will be a conversation starter. An accessory that will make you intriguing.

If the person is not for you, you still have had a pleasant conversation. If the person is interested, then you may even move on together for an intimate drink or to one of Newark's great restaurants.