Older but not wiser

An 82-year-old man choked his 74-year-old girlfriend because he was unhappy with the way she loaded a dishwasher. Lillian Keller reported that her live-in boyfriend, Joseph Frank Strauch, choked her until she was unconscious last Wednesday afternoon. She also told deputies Strauch had beaten her the previous night.

"Keller was taken to a local hospital with a bruise on her arm, cuts on her legs and redness around her neck. Strauch is charged with battery by strangulation. He was held in jail on $5,000 bond."

Apart from how old these "lovers" are, notice that he is her live-in boyfriend. She is providing a place for him to live and was cleaning up after a dinner she served him. This picture fits in beautifully with my descriptions of the 6th of The Dirty Seven--OL Man.

OL Man (Old Loser Man) has grown older but not wiser. He is looking for a woman to live off of and to dominate.He has not made provisions for himself in his life and now that the Twilight Years are upon him, he takes the easy way out and finds a woman to support him.

Since women outlive men and in some places, such as South Florida, there are 7 women to every one man, OL Men gravitate to such situations. They know they can find some desperately lonely widow or divorcee who will put up with their shiftlessness. They know that some women will accept any man rather than be alone.

Another characteristic of the OL Man is that even though you are supporting him, he acts like he is your boss. He isolates you from family and friends because he wants you to devote all your time to him. Your friends drop one by one because they can't stand being around him every time they want to be with you.

You may ask yourself, how can an 82-year-old get through life and not know better than to physically abuse  person who is good to him? The answer is because he is one of The Dirty Seven. The Dirty Seven are men who want to be in a relationship but don't have the ability to sustain a happy, fulfilling one. They have deep character flaws that do not get better with time. Plus, they get a pay-off from their bad behavior and therefore see no need to change. That is why I call them The Dirty Seven. You would not go out to buy rotten, moldy tomatoes, bring them home and expect them to get better. This is also true about The Dirty Seven. They do not get better. They just move on to their next victim.

Therefore, don't think that with enough love, enough counseling, and enough prayer The Dirty Seven will get better. Would you bring home an oozing, squashed, apple blackened with mold from the store and then  hope it will become bright, crisp and whole again? No. But with people we sometimes have the hope that they will change, get better, and that our love will save them.

No, kick them to the curb and move on. They will move on faster than you do anyway. Because all of the Dirty Seven are about "me, me, me." Thus they will find a replacement that will do all the things you did for them. They hurtle through life and use women up until the light dawns and they realize they have spent their time, money and love on one of The Dirty Seven.

 

 

For more info: Read my book The Dirty Seven: Ladies Beware.