When, when, when?: Hoping and Waiting for the Right One

A lady confided to me, "I used to be into selfish and emotionally unavailable men. I stopped dating them after reading your book, The Dirty Seven: Ladies Beware. But can you tell me why I haven’t met a decent guy yet or when I’m going to meet him? I’m starting to lose hope."

Worry vibes
Because of the ways the rules of attraction work, if you are constantly worried about not meeting a good mate, you will be sending out vibrations of worry and desperation. What kind of men are attracted by worried and desperate women? The types that take advantage of this weakness. Or who may be as worried and insecure as you are. Or who will get tired of your emotionally clinging needs.

Center of your universe
Therefore, It is time to stop making men the focal point of your universe. However, sometimes it takes time and patience. And just because you have done well spending a few days by yourself without a man, don't expect instant results. Until you are really clear on who you are without the prop of a man, Mr. Wonderful will not come into your life.

You're top priority
You must trust in yourself and believe that you are a top priority, build your self-esteem, and create a life driven by you full of positivity. Then, at some point, you’ll meet someone who will be drawn into your circle of love like a magnet. And they will love you because of who you are, not be the object of a clinging, needy, emotionally scattered mess.

Love yourself
Focus on enjoying your life, getting healthy and strong, and loving yourself. If you meet a guy, fine. But don't lose your mind or life over him. People who are truly committed to having a higher self-esteem, do not base it on a man or a relationship. They can validate themselves and not depend on others to do it.

Mirrors of ourselves
In relationships, you choose or engage with men that reflect the things that you believe about yourself, love, and relationships. This is why it’s important to value yourself and your life. You need to know when to let go of bad investments so that you don’t waste time. And you need to ensure that you’re doing things that benefit you and make you feel good.

Be happy
If you’ve been spending a significant portion of your life in relationships, that make you unhappy, it’s time for you to change. Start by not placing all of your happiness in the hands of The Dirty Seven, or hoping for a man that hasn't shown up yet. Get happy now!